n Imagine the entire population of Scotland and then add another million. That's how many people are estimated to be spending Christmas alone this year. Six million people do not fall into the Yuletide picture of united happy family round the hearth on December 25 due to divorce, separation, or bereavement. In reality Britain is the Bridget Jones society of singletons.
One organisation, Single Again, is catering for this growing sector of the lone households. Formed by Canadian Christina Basciano, following her own divorce in 1993, the group steers away from the dating game and focuses instead on a nationwide friendship club and self-help angle. Mike Halson, from Single Again in the UK, says: ''In reality Christmas has never been a time of joy for everyone. Being single again, or being on your own when you don't want to be, is still a difficult and painful business. Isolation and loneliness remain massive problems whether you live in a town or in the country.'' The Single Again information pack hopes to provide a survival kit for those who are feeling a little panicky at spending December 25 alone.
Single Again's Top Ten Tips Are:
1. It's no use trying to ignore the fact that Christmas is coming simply because you are on your own. Take time out to plan ahead so that you have an idea of what you will be doing each day.
2. Make a pledge to avoid feeling sorry for yourself and dwelling on the past. Learn to spot the warning signs and take prompt action by calling a friend or going out. Although alcohol tends to flow freely at this time of year, drowning your sorrows is not going to help.
3. Welcome invitations to share Christmas with another family -
so many people from all walks
of life are on their own at this time of year there is nothing to feel embarrassed about.
4. Don't wait for friends to beat a path to your door. You could take
the initiative by inviting friends over to a Boxing Day left-overs party. Prepare the main course for a buffet and invite people to bring a dish of their own.
5. If you do prefer your own company over Christmas, plan your TV viewing carefully. Many programmes are likely to emphasise happy family scenes which, if you are newly single, may leave you feeling a little down.
6. There are many positive and therapeutic solitary activities you can get involved in around the house. These include doing some much-needed cleaning or decorating and sorting out possessions. It will help you feel you are doing something positive with your time.
7. While you are sending your cards, take the time to re-establish contact with old friends you haven't seen in a long time, perhaps go through old letters and address books. This can generate new social opportunities for months ahead.
8. Consider doing some volunteer work as it can be very gratifying helping others, particularly if you are feeling a bit low yourself.
9. You can organise festive outings for yourself alone, or with a friend. For example, going to a Christmas carol concert, midnight Mass, a pantomime, or taking an evening stroll to see the Christmas lights, followed by punch and nibbles at home. Visit your local church, community centre, or library for details of activities.
10. Remember - despite the build-up and hype, Christmas only lasts for a few days! Use the opportunity to re-charge your batteries, ready for whatever the coming months may bring.
n If you would like a Single Again Christmas Advice Pack call freephone 0800 731 1180.
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